What happens when the ones we love hurt us? How do we react to that? Is it possible to become bigger and better? To learn from it and walk away stronger?  People will always hurt you at some point. That is inevitable, whether intentional or not, when do you forgive and when do you not forgive?

A simple type of love in my opinion is friendship. I've had friends in the past where I had to work hard to maintain the friendship. I would call say once a week and I was always the caller. Then down to once a month, then maybe a couple times a year. I always would be the one to make the call. Eventually nothing... Does that mean that person doesn't care anymore? Or am I the one who doesn't care anymore? I guess at some point you have to be good to the ones who are good to you and forget the rest. I have some friends, on the other hand, where we always find something to talk about. It could be months without talking but when we do finally connect it's like not a single day has passed. It's funny how with some people it works that way but not with others.

Now in relationship love it works different. A friend who hurts us.. depending on the offense is much easier to write of and forget about then say a spouse or boyfriend. In a relationship you have a much deeper connection usually at both a mental, physical, and maybe even children so your blood lines are tied for life. Hurt in this situation can run very deep. Sometimes it's just lack of simple attention that hurts us. Your man doesn't tell you your pretty anymore or doesn't show much affection. This can add up and make you feel like dirt over time. It can spoil your self esteem and if you let it get to you bad enough it can mentally start to affect you. Infidelity, mental abuse, physical abuse these are all things that can spoil a relationship. At what point though does it mean they don't love you, or at what point should you stop loving them?  Then we could start on does Love even exist? Or is it purely us (humans) trying to put a magical spin on what we are wired to do? Procreate and propagate the species. Why does a mother love her child so much? Is it simply a chemical reaction in the brain or is it something higher? Who knows......